For a long time, I thought I was broken. I didn’t see myself in any of the books, movies, or shows I was exposed to. The lives of others around me were not appealing. I wasn’t straight, but I wasn’t gay. I wanted lasting romantic love, but I felt claustrophobic in monogamy. I felt deep discomfort with womanhood, but knew manhood was wrong for me, too.

When I moved from Montreal to New York City, more than a decade ago, the anonymity that the city affords allowed me to explore the parts of myself I’d repressed; my queerness, my gender fluidity, my desire for multiple partners. I discovered that it’s possible to design relationships that break the traditional mold, and live as if my life itself was my art.

I started writing, just for fun. Stories I wished I could have accessed when I was younger. I ended up performing in a solo play that I produced myself. I performed across New York City in artist lofts, in living rooms, and in traditional venues like Dixon Place and Theatre Row. After each performance, audience members would tell me how much they needed to hear my journey. This encouraged me to keep going.

I began experimenting with personal essays, and I eventually completed a draft of my memoir. When I assessed the various routes to publication for my first book, I realized I wanted to share my story on my own terms, so I co-founded Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors. Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home comes out in February 2024.